Modes: Make every time, quality time
Last week I stumbled upon a seven-year-old Medium post by a certain Buster Benson, titled Live Like a Hydra. In the post Buster makes my great points towards the embrace of anti-fragility as a life strategy (worth the read!). Yet what sort of got stuck in the back of my head was his notion of ‘modes’.
He introduces these as:
Everything in the universe goes through cycles. Cycles of high energy and low energy. Cycles of change and stability. Cycles of focus and distraction. We’re no different, but most of the time we are trying to force fit ourselves into a mode that we aren’t in, and that causes trouble.
Buster explains that he has seven different modes that he can switch between, given the circumstances at any moment, and how it helps him stay healthy. And that really resonated with me. I, too, try to give more attention to what it is that I need in a given moment, rather than adapt to whatever other people want from me.
So I made a list of the different modes I switch between in my life. Like Buster, I counted seven, but not all of them the same as his.
Here are my seven modes:
1. Recovery Mode
We all recognise that there are moments when life hits you hard — think about an unusually high tax bill; your love breaking up with you; or a Corona epidemic. Same goes for me, and honestly, they can really get me down… in particular when I’m already dealing with other stuff in my life. That when I go into Recovery Mode. This mode is about giving myself time to build myself up again — slowly, patiently, without beating myself up. I focus on the basics: Enough sleep, eat healthy, watch a bit of tv. I also allow myself to workout less. Basically everything that doesn’t immediately energise me is put on hold until I am ready to deal with life again.
2. Slow Mode
I’m not sure about you, but my life often feels overwhelmingly full. It’s like every pocket of time has been claimed by some kind of activity. With my attention being hijacked by others so much, I’ve really started to appreciate those moments when I have some time for myself: when I’m folding laundry, for instance. I‘ve found that in this seemingly goalless activity, I am given room to think and to let things come. This is Slow Mode. With the pressure off, thoughts seem to flow more naturally and often wonderful new ideas are being born. And I now purposefully seek such Slow Mode moments — I found them in solitary post-lunchtime walks, in gardening, in bike rides, and in morning and afternoon train commutes.
3. Learning Mode
I am a curious person. I love deepening my understanding of certain parts of life: human nature; the function of architecture; responsible forms of doing business; as well as how they all relate (they do!). This means that in order to stay healthy and happy, I need enough time to read, to explore thoughts, to synthesise. Again, not at every moment, but when I haven’t been in Learning Mode for a while, I feel undernourished.
4. Flow Mode
When I’m lucky, Flow Mode follows Learning mode. It happens when the new things I’m learning about start to click with other things, and I get inspired. New ideas start to come into being, I write and restructure and it’s one of the best feelings in the world. I feel smart and powerful and I never want it to stop. Of course, Flow Mode may be completely different to you. Maybe it’s a runner’s high, or a programming challenge. But regardless: when you get to fully immerse yourself in something that you really has your heart, while also being good at it… Wow.
5. Work Mode
Beyond mere professional work, to me this covers any activity that requires a conscious effort. Cleaning the house. Working out. Maybe even parenting at moments (actually: many moments :). When I’m in Work Mode, I invest time and effort into something that I find important. This could be the achievement of a goal I have in my life, but also simply because I get paid for it so I can put food on the table. Whatever I do in Work Mode, the dedication is the same.
6. People Mode
As much I as like alone time, I love socialising with friends and family. Sometimes this is just shallow contact (when I need a break from work, I usually see if I can find some colleagues to bother with my existence 🙂 and sometimes this is about deeper, meaningful connection. It’s the one Mode that I really miss in these Corona times; sharing a beer on Houseparty just isn’t the same. And that brings me to my last mode:
7. Self Mode
Thinking about these modes is really part of giving attention to myself and how I’m doing. It’s part of Self Mode. Self Mode can mean personal introspection, but it also encompasses things like personal coaching, therapy; even opening up to a friend. Many may not do this purposefully, but still it’s good to recognise that a Self Mode is very valid to exist.
Some of these modes you may recognise, but there are many others. I used to have a friend who would probably include something like a Release mode on her list. She frequently visits night-long raves, with all the usual paraphernalia. Knowing something of her background, I suspect these help her to release the psychological brakes that exist in her life. This makes Release mode a very legitimate strategy towards her staying sane and healthy.
So I appreciate each of my seven modes as much as the other ones. All of them have value, and constitute ‘being productive’. We all need self-care, we all need play, we all need to follow curiosity. And yes, we all need to work sometimes too. But when you’re in the right mode, every time is quality time.
Index
“Make the world work, for 100% of humanity, in the shortest possible time, through spontaneous cooperation, without ecological offense or the disadvantage of anyone.” - R. Buckminster Fuller
1. UNDERSTANDING THE PROBLEM
On sustainability
- The Story of Stuff (2016)
- See no evil (2016)
- Sustainability is a political problem (2016)
- Use it all up (2016)
2. UNDERSTANDING HOW THE WORLD WORKS
On nature
- Nederland als rivierdelta (2023)
- What more do you want (2021)
- Opposite directions (2015)
- Nature VS. artifice (2015)
- The lowest state of energy (2015)
On human nature
- All of us possess ‘strongly positive directional tendencies’ (2022)
- De richting van chaos (The direction of chaos) (2020)
- The collective consciousness (2016)
- An overture on consciousness (2016)
- What makes humans different? (2016)
- Distinction, not individuality (2016)
- Grief (2016)
- Human body heat map of emotions (2015)
- Existential conservatism (2015)
- Quote: Undercurrent (2015)
On the meaning of life and living
- You are a leaf on a tree that has been growing for billions of years (2023)
- You are not just studying for your future (2021)
On culture
- Culture overrules nature (2016)
On morality
- Scarcity / Gratitude (2017)
3. UNDERSTANDING HOW CHANGE WORKS
On the Next Level Society
- Quote: Ancient Heart (2023)
On behavioral change
- How do we open people up to the idea of change in a time that screams for control? (2018)
- People don't change (2020)
- The one-senctence persuasion course (2017)
On marketing sustainability
- How creative agencies will save the world (2017)
- Why don’t people change their unsustainable ways? (2017)
- Sustainability needs marketing (2016)
- The carrot, the stick, the scenery and the cool (2016)
- How our focus on individual accountability puts the brakes on progress (2016)
- Checklist for sustainability communication (2016)
- Rule #6 in sustainability communication: Don’t tell me I’m wrong (2016)
- Wanted: Adjective (2016)
- Framing farming (2016)
- We’re not saving the planet (2016)
- Brainstorm: Uitkomsten - Van weten naar willen (2015)
- Brainstorm: Oproep! (2015)
4-A. FIXING HOW WE DESIGN THE WORLD
On naturalness
- Why we crave naturalness (these days) (2015)
- 顺其自然 (2015)
- What is naturalness? (2015)
On naturalness in behaviour
- Quote: Love someone exactly as they are (2022)
- Part of the Art: Levenslessen van een kunstenaar (2020)
- Deep listening (2020)
- Naturalness in Taoism (2020)
- Comfort car (2016)
- Quote: Trust yourself (2015)
- Quote: Unapologetically herself (2015)
- Deep ecology (2015)
- Naturalness in human behaviour (2015)
On naturalness in art
- Tokkelen / En opeens maken je vingers een fout (2020)
- Quote: Beauty is found... (2019)
- What art does (2015)
Artworks of interest
- The artist-free art of Semâ Bekirovic (2020)
- 4'33" (2020)
- The Magic Carpet of Daniel Wurtzel (2016)
- The generative systems of Brandon Morse (2016)
- This photo of Loouis Fernandes (2016)
- The Lotus wall of Daan Roosegaarde (2015)
- The mobiles of Alexander Calder (2015)
- The drawing trees of Tim Knowles (2015)
- The barely controllable brushes of Fabienne Verdier (2015)
On naturalness in architecture
- Principles of a great playground experience (2017)
- Unscripted use (2016)
- Acting natural does not mean: re-enacting nature (2015)
- 9 basic principles of biomimicry (2015)
Architecture of interest: naturalness
- Change is life (2019)
- Movable homes (2016)
- University building in Kolding, Denmark (2015)
- New Andean (2015)
On livable architecture
- Co-housing: The Wandelmeent (2016)
- The 'Cauliflower neighborhood' and the 'Woonerf' (2016)
- An organic approach to city design, or: Getting out of the way (2016)
- To watch: The Human Scale (2016)
- Cars make us lonely (2016)
- Flex (2016)
- Everyman's architecture (2016)
Architecture of interest: livability
- Zumthor vs Hadid (2021)
- Pluralist Tower (2020)
- Kowloon Walled City (2016)
On naturalness in design
- Dynamic art, architecture and design (2020)
- The three scopes of human design (2017)
- 9 basic principles of biomimicry (2015)
Design works of interest
- AI-generated rugs (2020)
- Open Up lamp (2015)
4-B. FIXING OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH OURSELVES
On well-being, self care and happiness
- Enough (2023)
- On old age (2022)
- To care is to self-care (2020)
- Quote: A little bit of 'I want to save the world' (2020)
- 8 key rules of living - A manifesto by Alain de Botton (2020)
- Modes: Make every time, quality time (2020)
- Daily dents (2018)
- Alternative missions (2016)
- Quote: Lightly, child (2016)
- Education (2016)
- Exercise in the recognition of virtuous feelings (2015)
4-C. FIXING THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN BUSINESS AND SOCIETY
On responsible business
- Ethical marketing yardstick (2023)
- Notes on responsible marketing (2020)
- Notes on Net Positive Business (2020)
- Open brief aan Kees Klomp, deel 1 (2019)
- Open brief aan Kees Klomp, deel 2 (2019)
- Let's talk: Hoe ziet een responsible business er nu werkeljk nu? (2019)
- How big corporates frame our world in their benefit (and against ours) (2019)
- Public spaces should be ad-free (2018)
- Globalisation is not a natural phenomenon (2017)
- Judging the merit of a business (2017)
- The Business Ethic (2015)
On Positive Design & design ethics
- Think UX' talk over Positive Design (slides + podcast) (2018)
- On manipulation (2016)
- The essence of a gun (2016)
- We're bad parents (2014)
On privacy
- Deel 1: Het 3-factor model van privacy (2020)
- Deel 2: De uitdagingen van online privacy (2020)
- Deel 3: Zo kan privacy ook (2020)
Progressieve bureaus van Nederland, 2021
- Categorie: Digital (2021)
- Categorie: Branding & communicatie (2021)
- Categorie: Strategische innovatie (2021)
- Categorie: Product design (2021)
- Categorie: Systems change (2021)
- Categorie: Freelance collectieven (2021)
OTHER NOTES AND WRITINGS
On digital design, CX/UX, and technology
- Mind states, or: How to describe a User Experience (2016)
- Quote: The real problem of humanity (2016)
- Quote: Staying human in the Machine Age (2016)
- Quote: Good design... (2016)
- De slapende potentie van je Verbal Identity (2014)
On the travel & hospitality industry
- Cooperation across the travel sector: who’s in? (2018)
- Samenwerken in de reisbranche: wie durft? (2018)
- Travel sector seeks greater cooperation and more knowledge about travelers (2018)
- A state of liminality: How understanding traveler psychology can facilitate smarter investments (2018)
- A state of liminality: Hoe begrip van de psychologie van de reiziger helpt om slimmer te investeren (2018)
Miscellaneous
- MIMI-model (2023)
- The Unbearable Lightness of Being… isn’t that unbearable (2021)
- Quote: On writing (2020)
- Ghosts (2017)
- Link dump, 2 (2016)
- Link dump, 1 (2016)
- The Clock of the Long Now (2016)
- Learning styles (2016)
- Gentle reminder (2016)
- Summer (2016)
- Opinion-size-shape-colour-origin-material-purpose noun (2016)
- The perfect walk (2015)
- The mind grows thoughts (2015)
- Still there (2015)
- Bigger (2015)
- Trimennen (2002)
On minimalism
- Multiple articles published at Understanding Minimalism →
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